hi Benzmum,
yea some of those changes in IE can make for annoying browsing, i dont think java is much a problem as activeX is.
i reccomend this:
Change your (active x) settings in IE. With IE open go to tools, internet options, security tab. Click on the internet globe, then custom level. Set the first option "download signed active x controls" to prompt, the next two to disable.
you tried firefox yet?